Here’s a scene from Disney’s "The Princess And The Frog" that just
popped up in my news feed. "When you find out who you are, you’ll find
out what you need. Blue skies and sunshine, guaranteed."
I have been making my way through recordings of one of the early 21 Day
Challenges, keeping the daily meditation habit alive, and today’s was
the dreaded "Who Am I?". As it turns out, the "who am I?" litany is not
valid. We aren’t supposed to define ourselves by the roles we fulfill
in daily life. No one is actually a CEO or a clock maker or a wife or a
student. Those are just the tings we do. We are not defined by our
roles. I remember way back when I was over-identified with a particular
role, and then when I didn’t have that, I thought I was nobody. That was
ugly. Certainly not going THERE again. This is why it was relatively
easy for me to lose my job – my identity was not all wrapped up in being
Madam Vice President. It was fun, and the pay was good, but it wasn’t
Who I Am.
So… what DOES define us? If I am not what I do, then who am I?
*stifles urge to shout, "I’M JEAN VALJEAN!"*
I have the feeling that it has something to do with our behavior.
Behavior is the outward manifestation of our inner life, what we’re
thinking, what we’re feeling. Are we mean, or are we kind? Do we blow
stop signs in the parking lot, or are we law-abiding citizens? Are we
running around all concerned about how to get ALL the toys, or do we
think that we have enough, and that if we have something, that means we
have something to give? Do we rush to judgment on everyone and
everything, or do we practice observing, being the silent witness? Ok
you got me – that judgment thing is hard for me, because I’m such a
freakin’ rocket scientist when it comes to behavior. I’m working on it.
Who am I? I guess I’m a work in progress, like everyone else.