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Make a difference

Make a difference“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around. – Leo Buscaglia”

In the last two days, I have encountered two women who are significantly older than I am – in the neighborhood of my own mother’s age – who seemed to require something from me. One of them needed to be comforted about thoughts of death; she is not sick, but believes that it’s coming soon, simply because she is old. The other had just been through chemo and was slowly getting her hair back. She seemed to require some encouragement about not allowing cancer to become her way of life, to dominate her survival.

In both cases, I found words pouring out of my mouth/keyboard that seemed to be almost on auto-pilot. These words seemed to have made them a little more peaceful, a beautiful example of when one person’s truth can actually help another person. At least, I hope that I am not totally full of shit and that’s what really happened – they were helped. What I said to each of them kind of defined my outlook on life of late, namely that I’m not going to think about the past or the future, and I’m only going to dwell in the NOW.

Sadness is what happens when you think about something unpleasant that has already happened, that’s already over. Worry is what happens when you think about something unpleasant that has not yet happened. Why borrow unhappiness from the past or the future? Why not stay here, now?

We’ve covered this before – in both cases, it’s raining in your mind. It’s not real unless it is NOW. If it hasn’t happened yet, it’s not real. If it’s over and done with, it’s not real. And right now, this very second, nothing sucks.

It’s kind of neat when ordinary experiences turn out to be teachers, reinforcers of some of the life lessons that we have learned. There is so much we can teach each other, and there are so many ways in which we can help one another. It really is a good, good life 🙂

A Memo about giving

A Memo about givingI read an article in the September issue of O Magazine about a woman who had 18 surgeries over a period of 30 years to correct cleft issues she’d been born with. She was never satisfied after any of the surgeries and could not see herself as anything but disfigured, despite people telling her that she was beautiful.

It was not until she began to give, to help others see past the face and into the heart, that she was able to embrace what was meaningfully and indelibly beautiful about herself.

I read that just last night, and today this shows up in the mail – a request to help those with craniofacial conditions who are too poor for surgery, by donating to Smile Train.

There is one lesson of which the Universe need not remind me, because I have learned it well – the more you give, the more it comes back to you. Generosity always ends up benefitting the giver, sometimes in ways that cannot be imagined. Just send it out there and a blessing is returned.

In that same issue of O Magazine, Suze Orman advises someone in financial dire straights to cut the charitable giving because she can no longer afford it. While it is true that I am currently unemployed with no visible prospects on the horizon, it is also true that I am not in financial dire straights. “Don’t bleed till you’re shot”, my friend Susan often says. This is not the time to have guardedness and miserliness reflected back at me from the Universe. It’s not the time to start acting like I’m poor, like I have nothing to give. If anything, this is the time to send out there whatever it is that I want back .

So, I am going to send a message of generosity to the Universe. I have $25.00 per month in my personal budget tagged for donations and I’m not cutting it. I will use my account at HelpAttack.com to send October’s budgeted amount to Smile Train. It’s not much but it will help someone to get their surgery. And who knows what might come back at me? :o)

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